Everyone knows someone who gets through life by running in the opposite direction whenever it’s time to take responsibility for something. In my game called, “DramaGuru Revelation”, this style of behavior is assigned to the Rabbit position.
DramaGuru Rabbit Position
So busy. Unavailable. Runs at the first sign of trouble. People say he’s “prolific”, meaning too many projects, babies, etc.
Unless you’re giving him or her what they need, whatever you say isn’t interesting. And they suddenly need “space”.
Position Before Submission: In order to be successful, a person practicing jiu jitsu needs to establish control (position) over his/her opponent (or training partner) before launching an attack. Rabbit position is firmly established when they run away and you chase them.
Trapped by a Rabbit
Life with a person behaving like a rabbit is lonely. It’s great when they’re focused on you. And emotionally devastating when they ignore you, leave you or turn their back on you.
Trust plan
Cornerman Agent September’s Advice: If the person behaving like a Rabbit is a family member or someone you need to have consistent contact with, you can’t ignore them or remove them from your life.
But you can set boundaries.
Rabbit’s actions are predictable. You can count on Rabbit to be a no-show. Therefore, expect less and celebrate more when Rabbit does show up.
Stay neutral. Feeling disappointment becomes a habit.
Be nicer to yourself. That’s something you do have control over.
Look for someone who will support you. Everyone deserves to be acknowledged and heard.
Recognize the Signs
Need another example? This one hurts. Children and suicide. 16. DramaGuru Rabbit Position: Dodging Responsibility
Photo Credit:
- Agent September, photo effect on Photofunia
- Teenage girl sitting on mat, photo by Mike Von on Unsplash
- Rabbit sitting on steps, photo by Steve Harvey on Unsplash
- Rabbit heckling people passing by, photo by Daniel Bernard on Unsplash
- Pink rabbit with carrot, photo by Marcus Ganahl on Unsplash
- Rabbit with back turned, photo by Gratisography on Pexels
- Woman with pink rabbit, photo by Ferdinand Studio from Pexels
- White rabbit with clock, photo by Pexels
The game I call Demon Spotting developed over time as I worked through emotional entanglements and confusing break-ups. My misery became code words. Code words became mat drills. Mat drills became winning combinations. And my confusion lifted. Consider this your invitation to play. Clarity is freedom.