During Covid, I miss the friendly connection with people helping me solve problems with paperwork and other issues. Now, I’m sent to their website. Ping-ponging back and forth between making phone calls and using up precious minutes pressing a variety of numbers to reach a person who’s never there.
So frustrating! “Please leave a message with all your details.”
DramaGuru Analysis
Feeling trapped! It seems minor, but the frustration builds. Feeling ineffective leads to feeling anger or shame (or both). That boils over and interferes with your mood for the rest of the day.
- Ostrich Position: Stuck in a state of confusion or ignoring the problem.
- The Eddie Attack: offering to help, but then not doing it. Like a two-faced person, saying one thing and then doing another. Feeling alone, left out or embarrassed.
Don’t stay alone. Reach out to other people. But remember to keep your mask on if you see them face-to-face #socialdistance
Agent of Connection
Now, that we’re heading into a deeper dive with Covid, I wonder how much worse things can get. Will the vaccines work against the new strains of coronavirus? Are more shut-downs ahead because case numbers are still rising?
The video below called “Agent of Connection” reminds me of the good old days when we felt comfortable connecting in brief moments with people we encountered during the day.
It’s part of the “Unlonely Film Festival” on a website called ArtandHealing.org
“A portrait of Bay Area Rapid Transit (BART) station agent William Cromartie who greets 4,000 Oakland commuters every day with a hug, a fist-bump, or a handshake. Transcending barriers so that we can better know and care about each other, this man of accomplishment and a winning philosophy feels he has the best job in the world.” Agent of Connection
Source:
- Photo of man in grey sweater by Tyrell James on Unsplash
- Ostrich photos, pexels
The game I call Demon Spotting developed over time as I worked through emotional entanglements and confusing break-ups. My misery became code words. Code words became mat drills. Mat drills became winning combinations. And my confusion lifted. Consider this your invitation to play. Clarity is freedom.