With all the demands for your attention and requests for compliant behavior, how do you slow things down to find space to listen to the one true, authentic voice?
I designed “DramaGuru Revelation” and “DramaGuru Relationships” to help me sift and sort through the competing voices in my head.
Analyzing situations through the lens of DramaGuru helps me to see the traps people fall into. And the ones they try to set for me.
Cool Heads Prevail
DramaGuru is based on the various styles of mixed martial arts. One of the objectives of sparring is to practice creating an opportunities for your opponent to step into a trap. The opponent then has the opportunity to practice escaping from the traps you set.
Staying calm. Level breathing. Once I find neutral, safe space, I can work through the various positions, attacks and escapes. How do I free myself? Which combination will work best today?
DramaGuru Revelation Positions:
Position Before Submission: Trapped! To ensure a positive outcome, secure control over your opponent before executing your attack.
- Chameleon: Adapt to match, with a focus on pretending to be something he or she is not.
- Magpie: Attracted to shiny objects. Eye on the prize, ignoring other agreements or promises.
- Ostrich: Bury your head in the sand. Ignore the problem.
- Peacock: Center of attention, whether it’s negative or positive.
- Porcupine: Plays the victim role. Vulnerable underbelly, but prickly on the outside.
- Rabbit: Unavailable. Runs at the first sign of trouble.
- Skunk: Bully. Respect the skunk or risk getting slimed.
- Vulture: Watch your back! Takes advantage of you. Eats the flesh right off your bones.
DramaGuru Revelation Attacks:
Mix and match from an assortment of behaviors to vanquish your opponent. Or to find out how you fell into a trap. Understanding the game helps you to avoid the trap in the future.
Watch. Listen. Learn. Emerge victorious!
- The Baby Jane: Create chaos! No one is safe around you.
- Creepy Wally: Invades private space
- The Eddie: gathers an audience, then embarrasses you in front of them
- Grandiose: insults, large or small
- Sneaky Millie: Hah! Played a trick on you. Made fun of you.
- Turncoat: Traitor. Disloyal. Pretender.
- Two-Timer: Cheating on you. Playing both sides.
- Vampire: Drains your energy and resources. Takes without giving.
Who is the Pivot Person?
Every situation needs a pivot person to provide relief, safe space and protection. A witness. Someone to say, “I saw that happen.”
Who plays that role? Could be a stranger. Could be someone you know.
Someone is clocking you. Will they step up or stay in the shadows?
Who’s in your corner?
Choose your cornermen wisely. They will help you work through the situation to gain clarity before taking any action.
Agent September: emotional control
DramaGuru: practical action
DramaGuru case analysis moves designed by Cheryl Gwyneth Ragsdale.
The game I call Demon Spotting developed over time as I worked through emotional entanglements and confusing break-ups. My misery became code words. Code words became mat drills. Mat drills became winning combinations. And my confusion lifted. Consider this your invitation to play. Clarity is freedom.