Guy Reffitt, father of three, was seen on video at the Insurrection on January 6, 2021. He threatened to shoot family members — and at least one iphone, if anyone snitched on him.
Nothing unusual about a person in authority threatening to punish if their demands aren’t met, right?
When someone threatens you, your escape might not be easy and it could cause a permanent (or long-standing) disruption in your relationship.
So, Dad set the intimidation trap, but his son, Jackson Reffitt, age 18, found a way to escape.
DramaGuru Escape Plan
Being threatened with a gun is a Code Red problem.
A great escape requires a Pivot Person.
From a neutral position, meaning, calm, cool and collected — not hot-headed and emotional, consider your options from the list of DramaGuru attacks.
In this case, Jackson contacted the FBI, weeks before his dad traveled to Washington DC to join the mob storming the Capital Building.
- The Eddie: Being two-faced comes in handy when you have a secret to keep. Gather friends and family who are loyal to you. The Eddie (Haskell) Attack can be used by the victim or the bully.
- The Turncoat: If he is disloyal to you, then it’s fair play for you to be disloyal to him. Especially if someone threatens to shoot you.
- The Baby Jane: Create chaos to attract attention and get help.
How Dad Set His Trap
DramaGuru Skunk Position: a small animal respected by all. No one wants to be sprayed with a stinky, anal skunk bomb.
If you have a boss, a parent or a spouse dominating you with threats, then you understand the notion of avoiding the “spray” at all costs.
DramaGuru Attacks: How Dad Treated His Family in this Situation
- Creepy Wally: Like a stalker, all over you with threats and intimidation
- Turncoat: Disloyal, traitor, threatens your safety
- Vampire: Drains your emotional resources and gives nothing in return, bloodsucker
- The Baby Jane: Create chaos and confusion. No one feels safe around you.
But family members say, ‘Dad wouldn’t hurt us’
So, did the FBI over-react when they went to arrest Guy Reffitt for his actions at the Capital on January 6th? On video, his wife and two daughters appear unconcerned about what their dad said. They aren’t taking his words seriously. Wylie Family Says Threats About Capitol Riot Taken Out of Context by FBI (video)
There’s always more than one side of the story. The audience has a point of view too.
What does loyalty look like to you?
Family members often prefer not to see things that make them uncomfortable or distort the image of a loved one. To preserve a blind spot, sticking your head in the sand is a routine preferred by people using the DramaGuru Ostrich position.
Confused? That is precisely the point. Confusion hides the truth beautifully.
As an insider, Jackson Reffitt knows more about his father’s behavior and motivations than those of us watching from the outside.
Doomsday Clock: Tick Tock Tick Tock
When family members take actions that cause long-term, permanent changes to their reputation, the stress can make your heart beat faster.
Is yours ticking too slow or too fast?
Keep calm and mind your manners.
Source:
- Jackson Reffitt college fund
- Teen Says He’s in Hiding After Turning in Dad Guy Reffitt for Alleged Role in Capitol Riots
- Wylie Family Says Threats About Capitol Riot Taken Out of Context by FBI
The game I call Demon Spotting developed over time as I worked through emotional entanglements and confusing break-ups. My misery became code words. Code words became mat drills. Mat drills became winning combinations. And my confusion lifted. Consider this your invitation to play. Clarity is freedom.